Radical Viewpoint: Everyone is addicted to something that “runs” them. The addiction concerning you may not be one of the heavy-duty cravings discussed below, but people can even be addicted to negative thoughts and the feelings they generate. A common, but rarely recognized addiction is to society’s idea of normalcy. Explore your own addictions before pointing your finger at others.

General Viewpoint: Addiction is usually considered a reliance on a substance or behavior that an individual has little power to resist. Some damaging addictions such as alcoholism can often be traced to symptoms of depression or emotional distress. It is easiest to explain substance-based addictions, including alcohol, cigarettes, drugs and prescriptions, which cause surges of dopamine in the brain, resulting in the user wanting to repeat the experience. Common behavioral addictions include gambling, shopping, eating, sex, work, and fervent attachment to a religion or a cause. Those in the public spotlight can become addicted to adulation.

Common Causes: If an addiction is not the result of depression or emotional problems, and it is not substance based, counselors are prone to consider the concept of an “addictive personality.” This is a distinct psychological trait that predisposes a person to compulsively behave in ways that their partner considers detrimental. They will often conceal the extent of their addiction, and will lie to cover themselves. They are usually immune to logical arguments to correct the situation. If your partner is addicted to the degree it is harming your relationship, in addition to the following awareness, you will most likely need professional help.