Radical Viewpoint: Sex is raw energy and one of the most important aspects of your life. If you try to repress your level of sexual desire to come into balance with a partner who has less desire, you will repress other aspects of your life?such as creativity. When your sex life is flowing joyously, your life, your creativity, and all you do flows joyously. So the partner with more desire needs to be free to establish other means of gratification. The person with less desire may need to assist their partner in establishing other avenues for sexual expression.

General Viewpoint: You either want more sex, or less sex, or a differnt kind of sex than you are experiencing. Maybe you are feeling deprived because your needs are not being honored, or resentful that your partner perceives your body as an object. If you want more sex, or more passionate sex, or kinkier sex, and your partner is turning a deaf ear to your needs, you may also feel you’ve being emotionally starved.

Common Causes: Although people experience different levels of biological desire at different times in their lives, other factors commonly inhibit sexual expression. If a person is overly passive toward the decision making of their partner, this will often generate a loss of desire in the partner. Emotional starvation, hidden resentments, and other forms of repressed pain will also reduce desire. Some people are underdeveloped sexually. Perimenopause or menopause can alter levels of desire. Feelings of responsibility, goal-orientation and anxiety will also suppress the sex drive. If none of these factors are valid, arousal is more likely when your partner is in a receptive state and they have freedom of choice.