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Fight Jealousy |
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| For singles who would rather be coupled, it is difficult to not be jealous of people who are in happy, committed relationships. But jealousy is nothing but a fear-based emotion that does not serve you well.
When you are jealous of other people, you are excessively concerned that your life is not and may never be the way you want it to be. You want a relationship, but currently you do not have one. That is what is. When you are jealous, you feel incomplete and believe that only by having a relationship can you be complete. But stop. Step back. Look at it more carefully. This is not a logical point of view. Having a relationship cannot make you complete. You have to feel like a secure and complete person before you can even attract that which you want out of a relationship.
Excessively jealous people often feel like they are not as happy as others. This feeling of jealousy or desperation will actually emanate from you and may drive people away. No one wants to date someone who is desperate to have a relationship. Instead, they want to date someone who is happy being alone, but chooses to be with them.
You need to accept that you cannot change the situation. Yes, you can take actions to find another partner (which you should if you want to), but ultimately, you cannot control whether or not you find a good match. So it is better to just sit back and enjoy the ride and appreciate the mystery of the outcome. It is difficult to do. But it all starts with you
and a change in your mindset. You simply need to see the glass half full, instead of half empty. Once you do that, you will realize that once you change your perspective, you can change your life.
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