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Reserve Judgment |
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| People are quick to judge. They judge everything and anything. If someone has an interaction with a new person with whom they find something distasteful, they will most likely label that person in a negative way. While this isn’t a problem in and of itself, if you don’t give that person a second chance to prove you wrong, then you might be selling yourself short. You might not get to know someone who is actually a great person.
The reason people judge so quickly made sense in the cave man days. People needed to make quick judgments about their surroundings so they wouldn’t get eaten by wild animals or attacked by other people. But this survival mechanism of our brain does not necessarily serve us well in this day and age.
Here’s an example. Let’s say you just started a new job. One day, you overhear one of your co-workers teasing another co-worker. You are appalled, and thus decide this guy must be a jerk. You keep your distance. You never get to know him because of that one incident.
What is wrong with the above scenario? Many people would say nothing. But perhaps that guy is a wonderful, caring person who just likes to innocently tease people. It’s simply because of his sense of humor. Is it really fair that you labeled this whole person’s character based on one interaction? No. To judge others based on such a small observation is not fair, nor is it wise.
Oftentimes people go through this same judgment process when they are dating. They are quick to judge. Maybe it was something they said. Or their less than polite table manners. Or the clothes they wore. Or a whole list of other things. If you quickly dismiss the person from a future date because of one or two things, you might be making a mistake. Instead, reserve judgment and give the person another chance.
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