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Let it Fizzle |
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| Dating is confusing. It seems like many people can’t find someone they like. Or if they find someone they like, then perhaps that person does not like them. And when they do finally find mutual attraction and interest, they think everything should be on automatic pilot and roll smoothly. But this doesn’t always happen.
There may be times when you find someone you like enough to have a second date with. And third. And fourth. And maybe even have sex with. But maybe there is not enough “sizzle” in your relationship to sustain it. In other words, there may not be enough chemistry – be it at the personality, mental, spiritual, or physical level. Maybe the person is perfect for you “on paper.” They are good looking, have a great personality, have a great job, and are seemingly really “into you.” You may talk on the phone or text each other all the time. Everything seems as if it should be just right. But it isn’t.
What should you do in this situation? Keep dating the person? Stress out about why you are not feeling emotionally connected to them? Or just go with the flow?
The correct answer is go with the flow. Chances are, this kind of relationship cannot and will not last. It is likely that one of you will pull back – consciously or unconsciously – and it will end eventually. There will probably be excuses (yours or your partners’) about being so busy or not ready. But don’t forget to read between the lines. If you just “aren’t feeling it,” then you probably never will!
Don’t be afraid to simply let it fizzle. Have faith in the Universe. Have faith in yourself. If you have to force yourself to have feelings for someone, then it’s just not meant to be. You deserve the best. You deserve to have the person of your dreams. Let those kinds of relationships fizzle, be patient, and let the Universe bring the right person to you.
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