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Don’t Commit Too Soon |
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| Whenever we meet someone we like, our natural tendency is to shut out all other suitors. Many people think that they shouldn’t bother going out with anyone else because they have found someone they like.
Take a look at your life situation. How much time do you have to devote to dating? Many people have very busy lives. They have work, and/or maybe they have children to raise. Where can you fit a relationship into it? It is for this reason, that you should be very picky. If you commit to someone too soon, you make yourself unavailable for others who might be more suitable to come along.
Anyone who has been in a failed romantic relationship (which is pretty much everyone) can tell you that what you see is not always what you get. The person you meet on the first few dates is mostly likely not the person who will emerge months or years down the road. Or even if that person doesn’t change, there still may be something that will keep you from having a happy, successful long term relationship.
Remember to be cautious. While it sure is fun to jump in the deep end right away, it’s not always the best thing to do. If you do this every time you have a few successful dates, you might also end up jumping into bed with them as well. While that may not be a problem for some people, others may get hurt as a result. Be yourself, but be cautious about the other person.
The best course of action in any situation is to follow your intuition. And your intuition may not always kick in right away. It may take a little getting to know a person before you can really get a feel for whether or not you want to (or should) commit yourself to them.
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