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Four Ways Vanquish Anger |
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| Take the time to notice that every time you got angry it is because you are not getting what you want.
But you do not want to repress such a strong emotion as anger. Repressed emotions fester within and always end up surfacing in some undesirable way such as ulcers, depression or misdirected antagonism. Long-term repression can cause cancer.
The idea is to learn to control anger so it doesn’t destroy your relationships, raise your blood pressure, and come back to you in the form of cause and effect.
So what can you do to deprogram anger? A good place to start is by reminding yourself when you get angry that your expectations are in conflict with what is. Maybe the other person is an asshole. That’s what is. The other person is incompetent. That’s what is. The other person is inconsiderate and selfish. That’s what is. You can resist what is, blow your top and raise your blood pressure, but it won’t change what is. In other words, your anger will probably only make matters worse.
Second, we suggest mind programming with self-hypnosis or directed meditation. Some people have greatly reduced their anger levels by chanting a mantra such as. “From now on, I choose to respond to negativity with tranquillity.” Say it over and over and over to yourself throughout the day--ideally, hundreds of times a day. Then when you encounter an anger-inducing situation, the programming will click in.
Running is a Tibetan cure for anger. If you’re in an office, rush up and down the stairs. If you’re at home, run around the house or around the block. Exertion requires more oxygen. When your breathing changes, your thought patterns also change. If you can’t run, do some deep breathing.
The idea is to learn to control your anger or it will control you.
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