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| With few exceptions, everything you say is to make yourself more important or to obtain sympathy. Just about every word you speak is an expression of insecurity.
Monitor yourself and listen to what others are saying. The exceptions will be statements of fact and legitimate questions, but that’s about it. We all talk and talk and talk, because we are insecure.
Lajos Egri, author of “The Art of Creative Writing,” talks about fear as the universal emotion responsible for man’s survival. “It is paradoxical but true that hate or love, treachery or loyalty, spring from one and the same source--insecurity. Emotion then is a thousand-pronged weapon to safeguard our lives. It spells out for our survival the basic tenet of our experience, insecurity, and now it has become a truism that life would be impossible without that insecurity of which we are so mortally afraid. Insecurity gives impetus to inventors to safeguard our existence.”
So you are not alone in experiencing insecurity. Everyone else in the world is right there with you, but everyone hides it well. Human emotions are rooted in insecurity, which equals self-preservation. And the desire to survive is our primary motivator.
But let’s look at the paradox here. When we can obtain security we quickly become bored because there is no longer any potential for adventure. We fight for security but in obtaining it we lose the game. This is why so many marriages become boring. The initial love affair was an adventure, but when it became institutionalized as marriage, all too often, the union becomes routine and mundane. Secure, but dull and boring.
Life swings from the known to the unknown and back again. In the known, life tends to become dull and boring. Venturing into the unknown, you’re insecure, but challenged, your heart beats faster, you experience aliveness, and you see things with new eyes. You are insecure. Embrace insecurity for the potential adventures it offers you.
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