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Detached Mind |
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| There is attached mind and detached mind. Most people live out their lives knowing only attached mind. This means your state of mind is always changing from positive to negative as outside conditions change. You are fine one minute, but when your mate yells at you, you become sad. This is extreme fluctuation from happiness and joy down through neutral to the basement of emotions: anger, hostility, depression, et cetera.
The goal is to develop detached mind. This means your state of mind fluctuates only from positive to neutral as outside conditions change. You accept all the warmth and joy that life has to offer while detaching from negativity by allowing it to flow through you without affecting you. In other words, your state of mind drops no further than neutral.
Once you develop detached mind, you detach only from the negativity in your life. This does not mean having no feelings. We are not talking about repressing your natural negative emotions. As long as you feel anger, hostility and resentment, you will have to express it, or it will turn inward and come out in another way.
Maybe your partner criticizes you. Normally your emotions would sink and you might respond in anger. But you come to realize when you resist what is, you make matters worse. So instead of resisting, you skip the drama, knowing your partner’s comments say a lot more about him/her than they do about you. You back off out of wisdom, not repression. By eliminating negativity, you leave more room for love and warm interaction, and you will be more likely to enter into what you do in life with nothing held back?free to be entirely at one with circumstances.
To develop detached mind, accept total responsibility for what you experience, learn to accept what is, and know that the way you view life will result in how you experience life?either positively or negatively.
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