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Stop Your “Soap Operas” |
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| Television soap operas are over-dramatized and often down right ridiculous. They are created for entertainment. However, you have probably created soap operas of your own, which are not helping your relationship.
Soap operas are the bitch, moan and groan complaints we repeat over and over in until we can verbalize them without thinking. They are tapes we play at appropriate opportunities.
Everyone close to you knows your soap operas. They have heard them so often that they could probably repeat them word for word, just as you could repeat theirs. When you talk about them, it feels good to “vent” and get it “out.” However, this is just a short-term “fix.” In the long run, the repetition programs the negative situation.
Here are some common relationship soap operas: “My husband doesn’t pay any attention to me,” “My wife doesn’t give me enough sex,” “He never helps me with the kids,” or “She spends too much money.” No matter what the topic, the repetition only programs your subconscious more and produces more of the same. If you want your soap opera to change, you must stop thinking and talking about the complaint.
Instead of basing your relationship on negative soap operas, try creating some positive new ones. They may not be true yet, but the mere act of playing a positive situation over and over in your mind will actually create a positive outcome. Your subconscious doesn’t know the difference between fantasy and reality. So if it “hears” good things on a regular basis, it will start to “believe” it and automatically work towards that goal.
You are the person who manifests everything in your life. So if you focus on your negativity, then you will never be able to move beyond it.
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