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Increase Your Self-Discipline |
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| How would you rate your level of self-discipline? A successful relationship requires a great deal of self-discipline. We do not usually associate the word “self-discipline” with relationships, but rather with things such as dieting, exercising, or working the way up the corporate ladder.
When people get married, all to often they sit back and think, “Oh good! The work is over. I can just kick back, relax, and enjoy life and my relationship because the dating stage is over.” That could not be farther from the truth. Marriage is not where the work stops. It is where the work begins.
People lack the self-discipline to put effort into making the relationship work. In the beginning, it was fun to cook dinner for your lover or to bring them flowers. However, after a while, and especially after marriage, it becomes “work” for many. The lack of effort is reflected in one or both partners’ attitudes and generally leads to a downward spiral if it is not caught and dealt with.
When someone interviews for a job, they put forth their “best.” Once they are hired, they still need to perform. If they don’t, they risk losing their job. But for some reason, people do not feel the same pressure for “performing” at their relationships. Instead they take their partner and the relationship for granted. The mindset of “No Work Required Unless I’m Forced To” takes over.
You must find the self-discipline to work on your relationship. If you don’t, you might as well face the fact that it is doomed, and it is just a matter of time before it ends. Are you willing to accept the ultimate demise of your relationship? If not, take a long hard look inside. Where is your self-discipline? Go find it.
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